I think it's safe to say that most, if not all, of us have been on a Tinder/Bumble/Hinge/etc. date once or twice. Online dating has become much more widespread and prevalent in the last few years. In my experience, it’s more common to find a couple that met online rather than in-person. We can sit and argue the pros and cons of this all day but I’ve got a bizarre story for you about a tinder date gone wrong.
A young woman, Kimberley, in England went on a date with a guy she met on Tinder back in December. The date started with coffee and was off to a good start by first-date standards, the pair then headed to a pub for food and that’s where things started getting weird. Once at dinner, the man asked her if she would consider plastic surgery and gave her some recommendations of places she should shop before their next date. Then the bill comes, there’s no doubt that this point of the date is always a little awkward for both people, but this guy really mishandled it. When Kimberley offered to pay, the guy got defensive and even showed her his bank balance on his phone to prove he could pay. SO. WEIRD.
So you might be thinking: 'That’s definitely weird, write it off as a bad date and move on’, but it gets worse. Three months after the date and no contact, the man sends Kimberley a FULL. ON. LIST. of ‘tips’ and improvements she should make to her appearance that would make him want to see her again. He suggested she lose weight, get a fake tan, show off her cleavage, and update her style “just so I’m not embarrassed to be seen with you.” He criticized what she ordered for dinner on the date and accused her of messing with his ego because she didn’t kiss him. The list literally goes on and on, you can read it below.
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There are so many wrongs with this nightmare of an experience. An unenjoyable date is bad enough but for someone to feel so entitled as to pick apart their date is unthinkable. At the core of this story is a man who sees women as customizable dolls and it’s this kind of disrespect and lack of equality that makes a lot of situations uncomfortable for women. Women don’t have to be presentable for men, we don’t have to eat a certain way for men, we don’t have to answer to men. The way we dress, our preferences, our minds, and our bodies are our personal business and no man should feel it is his place to ever force their opinion onto us.
We’ve all got insecurities and it’s a day-to-day struggle to achieve self-love for most everyone so people with such disregard for that are incredibly ignorant, just like this guy. Kimberley called out his behavior as disgusting and her only ‘tip’ for him was to learn how to respect women. Initially, Kimberley was left feeling hurt and insecure but as she read on she was able to find humor in his ignorance.
While I hope you’re never put in a situation like Kimberley’s, if it does happen (and let’s face it, there’s enough douches out there that this could happen), just remember that you should never let another person – man or woman – and their ignorant opinion of you break through your shell. We preach self-love here at Peachy Keen and a big component of self-love is learning that other’s opinions of you are completely irrelevant.
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday, #peachybabes!